As mentioned, just think of points as making arranging games easier.
No I have not met balanced points systems, life is much too complicated for that.
Points have nothing to do with winning/losing, thats down how people play. We had a club player - long ago - who found that being in a wood protected him. So as his forces moved through the wood, it was noted that the trees started to move with his force!
Sadly the idea has got around that tournaments and points result in overly keen players. I am sure they would play that way regardless. Its people that can be annoying.